Thursday, 27 October 2016

Difference between a meltdown and a tantrum?

Through all my research lately this is something that I found incredibly interesting, Loghan has had fewer meltdowns as he has gotten older but he still has a few and even if you have a neuro-typical child I think this is information is a big help because even neuro-typical children have meltdowns I have seen them with my own as well as other children, I found this information very useful in assessing a situation and therefore approaching it differently depending on what we are going through at that time, you are obviously not going to punish or discipline a child who is going through a meltdown, but a tantrum should obviously be treated differently.

Anyhoo here we go


Are goal orientated, ie the child is throwing said tantrum in order to get something that they want

Seeks attention; a tantrum throwing child will look to see whether they are getting a reaction from either you or people around you

A tantrum throwing child will avoid getting hurt

A tantrum ends quickly- a tantrum throwing child usually becomes bored and will move on

They are in control of their actions the entire time


There is no goal, ie no demands are made before the meltdown

No interest in reaction- the child does not care who is watching or how people react to their behaviour

Injury- A child in the midst of a meltdown is reacting on a primal level and therefore may injure themselves unintentionally.

Meltdowns last longer than a tantrum as the child has to calm down at their own pace and according to their own sensory load

The child is not in control of their actions they are literally in survival mode and react instinctively to their distress

There are generally warning signs given off by the child prior to the meltdown, stimming* or spacing out are the most common.

*Self-stimulatory behavior, also known as stimming and self-stimulation, is the repetition of physical movements, sounds, or repetitive movement of objects common in individuals with developmental disabilities, but most prevalent in people with autistic spectrum disorders.

Monday, 24 October 2016


Guys I’m not even going to start this post off with an apology because quite honestly you will most probably see many more over the next while.

I have a problem, this problem is a part of my personality and a very annoying one in that I tend to fixate on things and can get just a teeny tiny bit obsessed… ok a lot obsessed with something at any given time, these fixations can last for a few days, months… years but lately since we have established a diagnosis point and changed our living arrangements my latest fixation is well my kids.

Yes yes my kids are always a fixation in my life but right now it’s about establishing routines and schedules in order to make life easier for everyone in the household, we have 5 people living in our not too big duplex and things as small and silly as bath time or tv schedules can sometimes upset the entire apple cart on any given day.

Aside from that I have been reading articles, magazines, books and blogs anything and everything on home schooling, ASD, Aspergers, ADHD, anxiety, therapies and methods, sensory boards and kits and I think I am driving my family a bit moggy because when I say fixated I mean FIXATED and I know it can get a bit much but now that I know we are moving in a good direction I just want to help in every way that I can and I feel that the more I come to understand the way Loghan ticks and the more I understand why he behaves in certain ways the more I understand him and can help.

This weekend I started a pet project by building a sensory space for Loghan in his room, I repaired and set up a pop up tent I added a heavy crocheted blanket, pillows, teddies and a flash light, I plan on adding an mp3 player and block out headphones as well as stress toys etc, I also took our black out curtains and put them up in his room to block out outside light and interference and Loghan is just so over the moon so I think it is going to help create a space for him to calm down in or zone out in when things become too much for him or even if he gets angry and needs a place to calm down which he is currently doing so well with.

I have high hopes guys I really feel like we are on the right path and getting somewhere the ‘home schooling’ factor is a bit daunting because there are so many people who are against it in our community which is just wrong and if those people had any idea how difficult it is for some of these kids to get an education sometimes they would not be such a holes, I understand why some people may think home schooling is not the best solution and I agree that it isn’t for every child but every child is different and everyone needs to do what is best for their child, it is as if people are scared of the home schooling community like it is a cult that will consume and corrupt mainstream children and ruin society… I’m not even joking some people really are that against it but it has worked and continues to work for so many children and families and I really am looking forward to seeing how this journey goes.

Other than that I go in to find out my wisdom surgery date tomorrow… EEP wish me luck

Wednesday, 19 October 2016

Vaccinations- have my views changed?

This is a question and a discussion I have had a few times now since Loghan’s diagnosis and I can understand where it is coming from because I do know quite a few moms who have changed their stance or view on vaccinations since they received an AS diagnosis from their child’s doctor.

My answer is no, my opinions and stance on vaccinations has not changed I am still very much pro vaccine and all 3 of my kids are fully vaccinated with the exception of my youngest who will get his 6 year booster when he is 6.

Yes I have done the research 

Yes I have watched the film VAXED

Yes I am very much aware of what goes into vaccines 

I have more than one friend who is anti-vax and I have a very dear friend who became anti-vax when her eldest child reacted very badly to several of them who has gone the natural route of vaccines, I have no issue with her choice I believe she made the right decision medically and one of the reasons I chose to vaccinate other than protecting my own children was to help protect those (children, pregnant woman and the elderly) who either couldn’t for medical reasons or are more susceptible to the illnesses you vaccinate against.

Yes Loghan's symptoms became more noticeable when he reached his 15th- 18th month, however as I have stated time and time again I suspected that something was different from very early on as well as Loghan only started crèche at 15 months and up until then had very little interaction with other babies or children as we had a nanny and I was young so no one I knew had children let alone children his age, this time frame is also usually when children start verbalising themselves more and start interacting better and more with the children around them and therefore issues/ symptoms usually become more noticeable to those around them at this stage.

I was also told in NICU by the NICU pead that Loghan had an increased risk of adhd and other learning disorders or behavioural disorders due to him being prem.

Someone asked me if they came out with verifiable proof not fabricated or doctored studies put forward by a fraudulent doctor who bribed kiddies at a birthday party for their blood without parental consent and then lied about their medical history and patented a vaccine at the same time (the very vaccine he was saying caused autism) would I still vaccinate and my answer is yes I would.

I know some people would find this shocking but I have seen what Polio can do within family members and friends relatives, mumps measles and German measles can lead to birth defects and deafness in unborn babies or young children and there have been many deaths as well, my child is on the spectrum granted the high end of the spectrum but my bosses son was born with CP and a client of ours child has ds, I have also had wonderful opportunities meeting and interacting with autistic children or special needs over the years, every single one of them is a joy and a blessing with so much love to give….

In my personal opinion even if they do ever come out with substantial proof I will still vaccinate because I would rather have a special needs child than a dead one!!!!

Roald Dahl’s own 7 year old daughter died from encephalitis which is swelling on the brain caused in this case by measles but also by meningitis, I have a colleague who suffered with an adult case of encephalitis and what she has told me it is not something I would wish on my worst enemy, nor is the many many surgeries and issues I have seen a family member endure due to Polio contracted as a child.

My kids have all had chicken pox, this is not a deadly illness, my eldest and second son both got it incredibly mildly you could hardly tell, I myself have never had any of the illnesses I was vaccinated for not chicken pox nothing.  I was not able to get the vaccine with my youngest and he wound up with a case so bad we almost ended up in hospital as he wouldn’t eat or drink anything he would just lie on me and cry it was terrible and seeing my child in pain when it could have been avoided made me so angry, My second son got rota virus before the vaccine became available, imagine walking into your child’s room and there is poop everywhere all over them, their bed, their walls, and they are just lying there crying and confused unaware of why they cannot control their own bodily functions, having to be hospitalized again not wanting or able to keep anything down and his according to the doctor was a milder case, at the time the ward was full of these kids, it is a decision I stand by!

* This is my personal view*